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Updated: Dec 15, 2021

This moment of your life is one that’ll be forever cemented in your memory: the moment you’ll marry your love. So why is everyone around telling you what to do?

As much as they mean well, friends and family could easily (and most often do) overstep boundaries with overly critical input. But remember, you are the bride, not them. It is important for you to draw the line and do what’s best for you for your big day.

Create and Set Boundaries

Know what you want and stick to it. If you have a vision for your wedding, stay the course. Don’t let anyone talk you out of what you truly desire.

At the same time however, create some boundaries within yourself. You don’t have to listen to every suggestion your mother has, but some may be worth considering. Simply put, do not be afraid to find the balance within flexibility. Though it’s your wedding and you should get everything that you want, allow some room for flowing, not forcing. Creating that boundary within yourself will save you some stress. Maybe the bridal gowns are too costly for some of your bridesmaids, or something of the like. Allowing yourself to flow with the hiccups would allow your day to not only be enjoyable for you, but everyone else as well.

Be Brave Enough To Say No

Saying no to friends and family may not be easy, especially if they’re overly excited and eager to extend help. Now, maybe they’ve gotten married before and think that they know what’s best when it comes to choosing a caterer, DJ, flower arrangements and so on. But the thing is, it’s not their wedding. For the sake of your mental health and stress levels, please! - have the guts to say no, A polite way to decline a suggestion can be “we have a pretty specific vision for this that we’re sticking to, but thanks so much for your offer!” Of course, tweak it to your liking so that it’s said with genuity and in your voice.

Know When You’ve Done Enough

You’ve done all you can, but you need someone to take the reins. First things first, you really shouldn’t be planning your own wedding. Even moreso, your family and friends shouldn’t either.

Wedding planners in Southern California want the absolute best for you as their client, so even if they aren’t you or your loved ones, there is still some personal investment there.

Regardless of anything, if you hire a wedding planner in Los Angeles or even a day of coordinator, they are truly all about you, so you don’t have to worry about people pleasing. The best wedding planners in Los Angeles are not critical of their clients and only aim to help them make their dreams come true.

That being said, it is OK to say no to your wedding planner! The two of you are not going to agree on everything, so it is perfectly fine to speak up. Any wedding planner in Southern California would appreciate you speaking up when you’re not sure about something or disagree with an idea. That’s because doing so will make their work easier, which in turn, would make your wedding as magical as can be!

Make sure to be a team with your wedding planner or day-of coordinator, whichever you choose. Communicate, be proactive and vocal. Stop tapping your foot. Just place it directly on the ground. We put our foot down over here.

Oh, and if you’re worried about what the wedding planner would think of your particular preferences and idiosyncrasies, have no fear. Wedding planners in Southern California are already familiar with that kind of situation; it pretty much comes with the job and they’ve seen it all. At Cherished Moments, we want to alleviate your stress, so we’re totally OK with you saying no when it feels right.

Have fun enforcing those boundaries!


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